Dum, dum, dum-dum...

My baby sister is getting married! OMG! We all just got through the fact that she had a steady boyfriend. He's really her FIRST boyfriend and while meeting him during Christmas, he proposed to her. He didn't make a huge show of it, it was kind of already understood before he even got here...it was a little disappointing. She loves big shows of affection and she loves making an ass of herself, dunno where she could have gotten that from...ahem.
So, I guess we weren't asked but we had time on our hands, and the wedding is in a year so optimal planning time is passing us by and my mother and I just could not help ourselves. We basically have everything planned, we just need to pay deposits. For two whole weeks we were both on our laptops, googling pretty things and better prices and free shipping...etc.
Now, I should explain...my sister is in the United States Marine Corps. and so is her man. She is stationed in California for now and he is all the way in Japan. My sister is a tom-boy extraordinaire and completely depends on my mother and I for girly advice. My sisters prom, for example, she laid there like a crash-test dummy while make-up, spanx, dress and shoes were applied, hair was done and all the little details...and she was totally happy with the end result.
While we weren't asked for anything concerning the wedding, considering we are the brides family, planning on paying for most to all of the entire shin-dig and they're both in the military, we figured it was our 'right', 'duty', what-have-you, to go ahead and start planning. We did not just agree to things without the others' approval, groom and bride especially, we figured, we've both been brides, we naturally come more opinionated than the groom and his family. Not this groom and certainly not his family...
I'm not divulging a lot of the drama as I am still trying to wrap my head around it and with my sister being incommunicado for the time being, we don't have our mediator at the moment and won't have her for 29 more days.
But her groom is VERY opinionated, his mother even more so...omg, I don't know how my mother is going to handle it. As for me, I've decided I won't do anything involving her wedding unless otherwise specified. I'm actually taking the easy way out here...it doesn't feel good or familiar in any way and now I'm biting my nails. Precious time is passing here, my sister deserves the best ever and we were just trying to make sure she got it...